Seth Rogen says his 15-year marriage works because he and his wife, Lauren Miller Rogen, actively choose each other as people change—embracing new “parameters” in long-term love instead of expecting to remain the same.
Seth Rogen didn’t talk about marriage as a static achievement. On the “The Interview” podcast, he framed it as something that survives change—because the two people inside it keep making the choice.
He spoke after reflecting on his latest film, “The Invite,” where he plays a husband in an unhappy marriage. Rogen said conversations among the cast and crew about what makes a relationship good or bad pushed him to look back at his own.
“I remember feeling like I could really confidently speak about what a very good relationship was like, and one that had been good for a very long time,” he said.
Rogen and Lauren Miller Rogen first met in 2005 and married in 2011. They have collaborated professionally on multiple projects, including “Superbad,” and they do not have children.
For him, a healthy relationship has a clear emotional baseline: partners love each other, treat each other kindly, and—rather than searching for things to resent—“go out of their way to excuse the other person, rather than to find things that they hate about the other person.”
But Rogen says affection isn’t enough on its own. Both partners must choose each other actively. “You have to want to love your partner, and you have to want them to love you back, you know?” he said. He also added that intimacy and sexual attraction matter.
What surprised him most while talking through those ideas is how much people shift over time. Rogen said he now views long-term love as a series of relationships as you age. “It’s this very simple idea that you have many relationships throughout your life as you change. and you age. and your perspective changes. ” he said.
Sometimes, he said, the couple changes in ways that stay aligned. “Sometimes your partner changes with you. and you have several relationships with the same person that have new parameters. new boundaries. and new guidelines that are reflective of who you are as you become different people. ” he added.
Other times, he said, couples grow in different directions and end up incompatible. Rogen said he’s seen both outcomes firsthand, including in his own relationship. “We’re obviously very different people than we were in our early 20s now that we’re in our mid-40s. ” he said. “But we grew in a way that we stayed very compatible with one another. you know. and I’ve seen other couples not have that happen.”.
Rogen has also spoken previously about family choices. In 2023, he said he and his wife “thank God” they never had kids. “The older we get more happy and reaffirmed we are with our choice to not have kids,” he said on “The Diary of a CEO” podcast.
His comments join a broader wave of celebrity relationship rules shared on podcasts. Nick Lachey. who cohosts “Love is Blind” with his wife. Vanessa. said in 2025 that they have a “golden rule” about keeping professional and private life separate: “It’s ‘Don’t bring work home. Don’t bring home to work.’ Try and keep it as separate as you can,” Lachey said.
In 2025, Food Network star Ina Garten said one rule helped her marriage last almost 60 years. She said every decision she and her husband, Jeffrey, make has to benefit both of them. “And this is what Jeffrey taught me: Let’s figure out how we can both do what we want to do. It’s not about whether we get to do what you want to do or I want to do,” Garten said.
The thread running through all of it—from Rogen’s emphasis on active choice to Garten’s focus on shared benefit—is that long-term relationships don’t stay on autopilot. They keep getting renegotiated, one day at a time, as the people inside them keep becoming someone else.
Seth Rogen Lauren Miller Rogen marriage relationships The Interview podcast The Invite Superbad family choices intimacy Nick Lachey Vanessa Lachey Ina Garten Jeffrey Garten
So basically don’t cheat, got it.
I mean yeah people change but also people need to stay the same? Confusing. If they don’t have kids that’s probably easier too. Like everyone says “choose each other” but try doing that when life hits.
Bro he’s saying “parameters” like it’s a software update lol. Also he played a husband in an unhappy marriage and people are like “see, he knows.” Acting aside, intimacy/attraction is always gonna be the thing. But how do you just “excuse the other person” when they’re legit wrong? Sounds like PR marriage advice.
Not to be that person but Seth Rogen is rich and his wife works too, so of course they can “choose each other.” The article says no kids like that’s part of it? Like if you have bills and stress and kids, you can’t just go easy and “search less resent.” Also “sex matters” like duh, but everyone pretends they’re above it. I guess it’s nice though I didn’t think celebrities actually talk real stuff.