Sara Bareilles Admits She ‘Wrestled’ with Not Knowing If She Was Going to Be a Mom amid Fertility Struggles

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• Sara Bareilles opens up about her emotional journey with fertility treatments and the uncertainty of becoming a mother

• She hopes to create space for others experiencing similar struggles

• Bareilles revealed in her new documentary Good Grief that she’s considering using an egg donor after unsuccessful IVF attempts

Sara Bareilles is opening up about her fertility struggles and why she feels it’s so important to speak about it.

During her interview with Zach Sang on The Zach Sang Show, the 46-year-old singer, whose new album Good Grief is out now, spoke about pursuing fertility treatments. Bareilles, who is married to actor Joe Tippett, noted that she had no idea how hard the process would be when she began.

“I really wrestled because I found so little material out in the world of people talking about their fertility struggles,” she shared. “I found a lot of evidence of people talking about how hard it was to get pregnant once they had a healthy baby in their arms, but I didn’t find a lot of people talking, it’s not that there’s none, but I didn’t find a lot of people talking from the sort of like messy middle.” 

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Asked why she thinks people don’t talk about it, Bareilles said it can be uncomfortable and hard not to know whether one is going to become a parent.

“And it’s like a fundamental, a profound question that I am trying to answer for myself in my little life over here. Like, am I going to become a mother? I don’t know the answer,” admitted the musician. “Who wants to talk about that with everybody? I want to talk about that with everybody because I don’t want to feel alone in it. And I can only imagine if I don’t want to feel alone in it, there’s a lot of people who also don’t want to feel alone.”

Bareilles went on to say that she spent a lot of time in clinics during this process, getting her blood drawn and hormone levels checked.

“But the number of women I would encounter on any given day, just like little soldiers, just like coming in before they go to work, or not, or whatever, and just like doing the thing,” said Bareilles. “And doing, it’s like that line, I’m just swimming where they tell me to until I can’t swim no more. Like that, there is this total sense of surrender and powerlessness that you just have to make peace with because this is not something that is entirely in my control.”

“And no amount of money that I’m throwing at it, no amount of like it is just not entirely up to me how this looks. And that is so hard.”

This isn’t the first time Bareilles has spoken about trying to grow her family. In June, the singer shared that she and her husband have been trying to have children for the last two years.

In her documentary Good Grief, which premiered at the Tribeca Festival, Bareilles became emotional and revealed she’s tried IVF “a few times” and it’s been unsuccessful. The “Love Song” hitmaker then revealed that using an “egg donor” is the “next phase.”

“I really had to grieve that… that it won’t be mine,” Bareilles admitted in the documentary.

But it got her thinking about “the size of love” and that love is “big enough to hold a lot of shapes and sizes and ways things come.”

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