It’s quite a special feeling when you announce the birth of your newborn baby . The first few weeks of parenthood can undoubtably be the hardest as you settle into a new lifestyle with your family . But one woman had all that taken away from her when her husband announced their news on social media. The 27-year-old said she always wanted to name a baby girl after her grandma – and her twin brother had a similar plan. Although the pair discussed it would
be fine, things quickly escalated when she finally gave birth. Posting on Reddit , the mum said: “Fast forward 1.5 years and I get pregnant with a daughter. I talked to him [my twin brother] again and wanted to double check that he and his wife were okay with my daughter having a name so similar. “He assured me that she’s my baby and I am free to name her whatever I like. My husband and I landed on Lilly Deanna (Deanna was his grandma’s
name) and again checked they were cool with this. He said it was a little similar but reiterated that it’s fine. “At this point I assumed he had talked with his wife. I would have reached out to her myself, but I don’t have her phone number and she routinely friends then unfriends me on Facebook (she’s done this to my mum and grandma as well) so I couldn’t reach out there either.” After the woman gave birth to her little girl, her husband announced
their news on Facebook, along with the baby’s full name. She continued: “My brother called my mum to let her know that his wife had seen the post (despite not being friends with either of us) and was livid that I would upstage her baby with such a similar name. “At this point I was kind of blindsided. I’m a huge people pleaser and upsetting her was the last thing I wanted to do (hence why I asked if it was okay so many times).
She DM’d me through Messenger and said it’s deeply weird that I stole their name.” Although the new mum was “freaking out”, she sent her a long message, explaining how the name is important and that she thought she already knew about it. The woman continued: “She responded to that with this: ‘I appreciate you sharing this with me. I do not want to better our relationship. Or have one with you at all. ‘” After the message, the woman revealed she hadn’t spoken to
her sister-in-law now for 7 months, but the brother made plans to come and visit with her and their kids. She revealed: “This is the first time she is going to meet any of my extended family. At this point I’m not sure what to think. I really tried to make sure this wouldn’t happen before I gave her the name, but it happened anyway. “The people pleasing part of me is kind of dying, but another part of me feels like I shouldn’t care
what she thinks. “She has refused a relationship with me and my parents from the beginning because she feared that we would treat her two children from a previous marriage as less than family. “As a result I’ve only met those kids twice and haven’t seen any of them (minus my brother) in over two years. Basically I just want to make sure I’m not going crazy here. I’m going to see her in a week and I don’t even know what to say! AITA?”
Many people flooded the comments section to share their support, as one wrote: “Nobody gets to gatekeep a name. You went above and beyond to make sure your brother was okay with the name you had chosen.” Another added: “People don’t own names. Do you know how many Franks and Vitos and Marys are in my family? So many. It’s not about them. NTA.”
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