having a – After years of graduate school, a career first mindset, and student-loan pressure, she welcomed her fourth—and last—child just before turning 40. The experience was physically smooth and emotionally complete, but the timing strained her friendships as many pee
She always pictured the life she wanted: a big family. more established footing before the first baby arrived. and time to travel before parenthood took over. She married in her mid-20s after a prolonged stretch in school that ended with two graduate degrees. For a while, she could hold both desires in her hands—ambition and possibility—without having to choose.
By 31, she was ready. Her first child came then, followed quickly by two more. She loved being a mother, even as three children—her “moon and stars”—made the days feel full.
But she didn’t feel finished.
Her husband needed a few years to get on board. yet they eventually agreed to grow their family by one more. Her last son arrived just before she turned 40. In the moment, it felt exactly right. She describes being ecstatic that her much-wanted fourth and final child had arrived. taking in his newborn scent and finding late-night wake-ups and cluster feeding easier and less intrusive than they had been with her older kids. With the long wait built into the story, every baby moment felt “just a little sweeter.”.
Even though she was considered a “geriatric mother,” her pregnancy and delivery had gone smoothly. Age, she says, didn’t feel present in the way she expected it to—even though there was nearly a decade between becoming pregnant with her first child and giving birth to her fourth.
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40 is fine, but the “friendships” part is relatable I guess.
So she waited till 40 and it was “smooth,” but then her friends got strained?? Sounds like the friends were just jealous or didn’t want to hang. Also student loans messed everything up… or maybe it’s the age like everyone says?
I read it like she was pregnant at 40 and that’s what reshaped everything, but then it says nearly a decade between first and fourth kid so idk. Either way, family comes first and people fall off. The part about baby smell?? that’s wild lol.
Graduate school, two degrees, student loans, then 4 kids… honestly that’s the real plot. Like why were her friends even around in the first place if she was always busy. Also they call her a “geriatric mother” but the delivery was smooth so maybe the whole risk thing is exaggerated? Not sure, I just feel like people make it dramatic.