Beartooth’s Caleb Shomo Comes Out, Wife Reacts Deeply

Beartooth frontman Caleb Shomo, 33, shared that he’s gay in a vulnerable Instagram post, describing years of internal struggle tied to depression, self-hatred, and alcohol. The same day, his wife Fleur Shomo—married nearly 14 years—posted a complex response ab

Beartooth frontman Caleb Shomo didn’t just make an announcement—he brought fans into a private reckoning.

On Saturday, the 33-year-old lead singer shared on Instagram that he’s gay, writing that there has been “a lot of speculation surrounding my personal life” and that he felt “compelled to set the record straight before it affects those I love any further.” “I am a proudly gay man,” he added.

In his post, Shomo said the truth was not new to him, but it took years to face. He described “a lot of time” spent “unpacking and reckoning” with his feelings, saying it had been hard to navigate what he was experiencing and decide “what to do with this fact.”

He also tied his sexuality and his difficulty accepting it to themes he’s written about in Beartooth’s music for years. Shomo said his art—across multiple album eras—has chased “who I am in the deepest part of my soul. ” pointing to “4 very self deprecating albums” exploring his religious upbringing. depression. “self hatred. self loathing. and hopelessness.” He called those albums something he’s “grateful” for. but admitted he sometimes felt “embarrassed” that he hadn’t been willing to dig deeper into the roots.

“When it comes to my art/Beartooth. ” Shomo wrote. “I have always strived to chase who I am in the deepest part of my soul from album to album.” He then described a turning point: for “a decade. ” he buried feelings with alcohol. When he decided to put it down and focus on the reasons behind how he’d felt for so long. he said it became “a direct path to me reconciling with my sexuality in hopes that it will eventually lead me to experiencing self love.”.

He ended that portion with a promise to stay honest in what’s next. “One thing I decided before I wrote a single lyric or note of the upcoming album is that whatever happens. I will express myself whole heartedly and fully. ” he wrote. adding that he would not “water any part of it down”—from the music to the lyrical content and “any way I portray myself.”.

Shomo said he believes it’s “impossible to love every part of you when you won’t face every part of you head on,” and he described the goal as learning how to be proud of who he is, saying, “I think this is a massive part of that journey.”

He also thanked people who supported him through the process—those who showed him love. empowerment. and openness to living freely and supporting the queer community. as well as anyone who simply told him “you love me whoever I am.” He encouraged anyone who’s struggling “with who they are” to give themselves grace and patience. warning against burying hard feelings “as deep as you physically can thinking it will change like I did. ” because “Holding these things in only hurt you and those around you.”.

In closing, he wrote: “Love you all, and hopefully this is a step in the right direction to loving myself one day.
— Caleb Shomo”

While Caleb posted his truth, attention moved quickly to his home life. He has been married to wife Fleur Shomo for nearly 14 years—and the same day he came out, Fleur shared her own message on Instagram.

She began with uncertainty about how to start, writing, “Not really sure how to start this cause does anything even need to be said? But I guess I’ll just dive right in.” Fleur said the past few months had been “a very disorientating and hurtful time to navigate. For both of us.”

Her message centered on love and protection for Caleb, while acknowledging the personal cost. “But I will always love, protect, and support Caleb,” she wrote. She said she has cared more about his well being “over the years than anyone else in the world. ” and she described watching him move through “confusion and pain. ” including “the highs and lows” and the feeling of wanting to help without knowing how.

Fleur said the situation came with difficult questions for her too. writing: “You also ask yourself constantly if you’re a bad person for wondering wtf this means for you and for your world & the anger you also feel.” She said. “I am the only person that is having to deal with the duality of this situation.”.

“To support him whilst losing everything has been incredibly hard to figure out,” Fleur continued. “You can love and support your person through the hardest time in their life. whilst also be completely demolished & lose yourself at the same time.” She said isolation added another layer: “The isolation of not being able to talk to people about this has been profound. as it has not been my story to share.” She added. “My mental health has suffered & I have had moments where I have not felt or acted like myself.”.

For those who stood by her, she offered gratitude. “For those that have known & been there, thank you. I’ll never be able to repay your kindness,” Fleur wrote.

Looking back, she described their nearly 14 years of marriage as something real and joyful. “Our nearly 14yrs of marriage was wonderful and full of so much fun. adventure. & love. ” she said. adding that “Nobody will know anything about our marriage like we do.” “And no one can ever truly know what depths of love exist between two people unless they are those people. ” she wrote.

But she also made clear the marriage has ended. “I already miss it & my husband more than anything. Our story was a good one. And now it’s done.”

She then turned toward hope. “I hope anyone in the world going through this finds hope & courage. ” Fleur wrote. and she asked fans to continue supporting Caleb. “For now I’m going to keep focusing on what I can control & continue living my life trying to achieve what I want to achieve. ” she said. describing it as taking things day by day and “piece by small piece. bird by bird.”.

Her message ended with a small, everyday image: “And if I keep saying hi to as many dogs as possible along the way, then I’m sure things will slowly get better, day by day, piece by small piece, bird by bird.”

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